there was a question asked by a female on an fm show today ......if u have a situation where there are two persons in the river drowning ....one of them is the one whom 'u' love  ---   and the other is the one .....who loves 'u'. u have the chance to save only one of them . whom would u save and why? i wondered for a while andcame up with my own answer . now i would like to know the answers from my friends .